How to Ease the Pain of a Broken-heart?
The experience of being a brokenhearted seems being alone in a corner crying, weeping, and languishing the good old days, and, perhaps, cursing the cause of the pain. It is one of the events that we began to shed tears for someone we so dearly lost or of someone failing to have. Having a broken heart is exactly for someone whom we loved, cared and adored. Expectantly, it is caused by two most common events. First, in the middle of a relationship it reaches the point of a bitter climax, thus when we fail to hang on to or mend the ways for a better understanding, we end in a breakup. Lastly, we meet someone whom we think is just meant for us in the right place, in the right time. We try to get closer to the person, in the inner her/him, and then we fall in love. However, we get frustrated when the realization turns out that it cannot be, or when rejection shrouds the hope of winning her/him.
Its kind the tragic for its one of the sorts that we experience the deepest torments and regrets. Ruefully, it’s also the most silent and remotest type, when nobody seems to understand and feel the beating of an aching heart. When nobody seems to hear, when nobody seems around. However, though painful and frustrating it is, there are cures to ease the pain of a broken heart.
One of the best ways to ease the broken heart is learning to express the pain that dwells inside. Let it out. Try not to go along with the painful period alone. It is much easier to move on when you have someone on your side whom you can confide your feelings and regrets. A close friend, relative, or a parent will do.
Expressing it can also be achieved by putting it to form, aside from communication processes. Engage into things that can help you recover and shout out the anger of a break up or a rejection. Try to understand that there are other things worth of doing such as join sport cliques. Take for example boxing, karate, judo, basketball, baseball, and even video games. In this process you can let it out freely. Knock the sandbags, swash-buckle your opponent, smash the ball; and imagine that it’s the person you’re dealing with.
You can also go the other way around. Sing, dance, and get your self-involved that will help you forget past. In short, try something new. Join a youth camp where you can meet different people, a workshop or a baranggay association.
Surround yourself with things that bring you comfort. If because of the relationship you’ve neglected things of importance, try to go back. If before the relationship you watch a lot movies, watch; go on malling; get along with your barkadas; eat a lot; sleep often; read; and do the things you like best.
Learn from the experience. Loss and failure doesn’t always mean frustration. It comes up with a lesson. Since you have experienced it, you must now have acquired a much better knowledge about love.
Do write a few things, at least if you want to get even. Since you have learned, write stories, poems, essays and, if you can a novel. Make him/her the villain, antagonist, and with a stroke of a pen, give him/her a drastic end.
Don’t blame yourself. Put in your mind that it’s his/her loss, not yours. You have done your best; made it well; brought felicity in the relationship. Why regret?
Learn to accept the truth. To put it simply, there comes a point that eventually you will end up. Its kind the hard though, but its how things had gone by. Scenarios of the past remains in the historical vacuum. You can only look back.
Lastly, be patient and move on. As far as accepting the truth, you must also learn to move on. It may take a lot of time but eventually it will do you good, and make you a much better person. Take one step at a time. Try to recover your self-esteem, believe in yourself, take care, and be grateful about the things and people that you have.
And after a time, be ready to fall in love again—don’t search, but as the old ones once said, let love look for you.
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